{"id":793,"date":"2026-08-17T22:04:24","date_gmt":"2026-08-17T22:04:24","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/depthguide.com\/?p=793"},"modified":"2026-08-18T22:09:53","modified_gmt":"2026-08-18T22:09:53","slug":"let-them-speak-the-spell","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/depthguide.com\/?p=793","title":{"rendered":"Let Them Speak the Spell"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">School of Conversation \u2014 Element of Motivation<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Someone says:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cI really need to start exercising.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You see your opening.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cYou absolutely do. You&#8217;d feel better. You&#8217;d sleep better. You&#8217;d have more energy. You could start walking every morning. You should probably\u2014\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">They begin explaining why they cannot.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Interesting.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">They arrived arguing <strong>for<\/strong> change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You supplied so many reasons for changing that they were left holding the other side of the argument.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Sometimes the best person to make the case\u2014<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">is them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Change Talk<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">In motivational interviewing, <strong>change talk<\/strong> is language that leans toward change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">It might sound like:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cI want to\u2026\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cI could\u2026\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cI need to\u2026\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cI have to\u2026\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cThings would be better if\u2026\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cI&#8217;m getting tired of\u2026\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cI think I&#8217;m ready\u2026\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">These are important sentences.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Do not run past them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Listen for the Lean<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Someone says:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cI don&#8217;t know. I&#8217;m just tired of living like this.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">There.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The door moved.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Instead of immediately prescribing:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cWhat are you getting tired of?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Let them describe the reason.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Desire<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cI want to get out more.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You might ask:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cWhat would you like about getting out more?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Now they speak the attraction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cI&#8217;d meet people.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cI&#8217;d stop feeling like every day is the same.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cI miss being outside.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Their reasons.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Their spell.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Ability<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Someone says:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cI could probably walk after dinner.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Do not immediately improve the plan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cWhat makes after dinner seem doable?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">They may say:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cI&#8217;m already home, and it&#8217;s cooler then.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Good.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">They are identifying their own workable terrain.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Reasons<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cI&#8217;d probably sleep better if I stopped drinking coffee so late.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Try:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cWhat difference would better sleep make for you?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Now one reason may reveal another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cI&#8217;d have more patience with the kids.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Interesting.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The original issue was coffee.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The deeper motivation may be family.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Need<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cI need to get this debt under control.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ask:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cWhat makes it feel important now?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Perhaps:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cI&#8217;m tired of being afraid to open my bank account.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">There.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">That sentence may contain more motivational power than twenty financial lectures.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Commitment<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Listen for stronger language.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cI&#8217;m going to call tomorrow.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Different from:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cI should call sometime.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">When commitment appears, support it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cWhat&#8217;s your plan for making the call?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Now intention begins becoming action.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Do Not Argue for Their Change Harder Than They Do<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">This is one of the strange traps.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">They say:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cMaybe I should quit.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You say:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cYes. Absolutely. Here&#8217;s why.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">They respond:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cWell, the job isn&#8217;t <em>that<\/em> bad.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Now you are campaigning for their resignation while they defend their employer.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">How did we get here?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">When you take one side too aggressively, humans often begin supplying the missing side.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Let them own their argument.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Ask Evocative Questions<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Instead of:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cDon&#8217;t you think you&#8217;d feel better if you changed?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Try:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cWhat might be better if you changed?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The first contains your answer.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The second asks for theirs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Ask About the Future<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cIf nothing changes, where do you think this is headed?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Powerful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Or:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cIf this went well, what would life look like six months from now?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Now they compare futures.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You are not threatening.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You are helping them look down the road.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Ask About the Past<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cWas there a time when this was working better?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">They say:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cYeah. Last summer.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cWhat was different then?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Now previous success becomes evidence.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Perhaps the person already possesses part of the spell.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Ask About Importance<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cOn a scale from zero to ten, how important is this to you?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">They say:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cSeven.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Interesting.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Do not ask:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cWhy not ten?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">That invites arguments against change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ask:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cWhy a seven instead of a three?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Now they explain why it matters.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Clever little spell.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Ask About Confidence<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cHow confident are you that you could do it?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cFive.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cWhat would move it to a six?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Perhaps:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cIf I had someone to go with.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Now the obstacle becomes visible.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Reflect Change Talk<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">They say:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cI hate waking up feeling like this.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You might reflect:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cYou&#8217;re getting tired of paying for it the next morning.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">They say:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cExactly.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The motivation becomes clearer through hearing it returned.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Summarize Their Reasons<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Later:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cSo you&#8217;re thinking about changing because you&#8217;re tired of the mornings, you&#8217;re spending more money than you want, and you liked how you felt when you took that month off.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Notice:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">These are not your reasons.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You gathered theirs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">That distinction matters.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Do Not Manufacture Motivation<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Sometimes someone does not want to change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You ask:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cWhat would be better if you stopped?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">They say:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cNothing.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Information acquired.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Do not keep fishing until they provide the approved answer.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Motivational interviewing is not a sophisticated technique for forcing someone to want what you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Agency remains.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Ambivalence Is Normal<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cI want to leave, but I love them.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Both.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cI want the promotion, but I don&#8217;t want the responsibility.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Both.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cI want to save money, but I like traveling.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Both.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Do not immediately destroy one side.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Explore.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ambivalence is often the actual terrain before change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Ask Permission Before Offering Information<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Eventually you may know something useful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Try:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cWould it be okay if I shared something that might help?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">They say yes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Share briefly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Then return:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cWhat do you make of that?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Information enters their decision-making process.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">It does not replace it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Their Reasons Are Usually Stronger<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You can tell someone:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cYou should take better care of yourself.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Fine.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">They might tell themselves:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cI want enough energy to play with my daughter.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Which spell do you think has deeper roots?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">People live inside their own values.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Find those.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">The Mage&#8217;s Practice<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">When someone begins talking about change, resist immediately becoming the expert.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Listen for:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>I want.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>I could.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>I need.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>I might.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>I&#8217;m tired of.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Things would be better if.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Then ask about those words.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cWhy?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cWhat would that give you?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cWhat makes you think you could?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cWhat would the first step look like?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Let them build the case.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You can provide maps.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Information.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Encouragement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Experience.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">But motivation borrowed from another person is often fragile.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Motivation discovered in one&#8217;s own mouth has roots.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Sometimes the most powerful thing you can do when someone is trying to change is stop casting long enough for them to hear their own voice.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The spell belongs to them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Let them speak it.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>School of Conversation \u2014 Element of Motivation Someone says: \u201cI really need to start exercising.\u201d You see your opening. \u201cYou absolutely do. You&#8217;d feel better. You&#8217;d sleep better. You&#8217;d have more energy. You could start walking every morning. You should probably\u2014\u201d They begin explaining why they cannot. Interesting. They arrived arguing for change. 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