{"id":707,"date":"2026-08-17T19:45:59","date_gmt":"2026-08-17T19:45:59","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/depthguide.com\/?p=707"},"modified":"2026-08-18T22:11:21","modified_gmt":"2026-08-18T22:11:21","slug":"name-what-is-already-strong","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/depthguide.com\/?p=707","title":{"rendered":"Name What Is Already Strong"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">School of Conversation \u2014 Element of Rapport<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Someone tells you about a difficult thing they did.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">They were afraid.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">They did it anyway.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">And we say:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cGood job.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Perfectly kind.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Also occasionally about as informative as giving someone a gold star for surviving a shipwreck.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">There is another way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Tell them <strong>what you saw.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Praise and Affirmation<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Praise often evaluates.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cYou&#8217;re amazing.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cYou&#8217;re so smart.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cGood job.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Affirmation notices.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cYou kept working on it even after the first plan failed.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cYou told the truth even though you knew it might cost you.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cYou were angry, and you still chose not to say the thing you knew would hurt them.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Those statements contain information.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">They show the person which part of their behavior mattered.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Name the Evidence<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Suppose someone says:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cI don&#8217;t think I&#8217;m very disciplined.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You could argue.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cYes, you are.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cNo, I&#8217;m not.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cYes, you are.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Excellent conversation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Instead:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cYou&#8217;ve gotten up before work three times a week for the last two months to train.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Now there is evidence on the table.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You do not have to convince them of an identity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You can simply point toward something real.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Affirm Effort<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Outcomes are noisy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">People can make excellent decisions and still lose.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">They can prepare carefully and still fail.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">They can speak courageously and still be rejected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">If affirmation only arrives when someone wins, they may begin confusing worth with outcome.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Notice the process.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cYou prepared for that interview seriously.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cYou went back and apologized.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cYou tried again after the first attempt fell apart.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cYou asked for help instead of pretending you knew.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">These things remain true regardless of what happened afterward.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Affirm Values<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Sometimes behavior reveals what someone cares about.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">A friend drives two hours to help their brother move.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You could say:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cYou&#8217;re such a good person.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Or:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cFamily really matters to you. You show up.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Different.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">More specific.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Someone refuses to gossip about a coworker.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cYou were careful not to turn frustration into cruelty.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Now you are naming a value in motion.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Let People Hear Their Own Strength<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Someone says:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cI was terrified, but I made the call.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">There is already an affirmation hidden inside their sentence.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Reflect it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cYou were terrified and called anyway.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You do not even need to add:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cThat was brave.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">They may hear it themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Sometimes the strongest affirmation simply rearranges the person&#8217;s own evidence so they can see what it contains.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Don&#8217;t Inflate<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">There is a counterfeit version.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Someone washes one plate.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cYour extraordinary dedication to household stewardship is inspiring.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Easy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Affirmation loses credibility when it becomes ceremonial.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Humans can smell inflated praise.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">If everything is extraordinary, nothing is.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Name what is actually there.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Small things are allowed to be small and still worthwhile.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Don&#8217;t Praise People Into a Cage<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cYou&#8217;re always so strong.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Sounds kind.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">May quietly become:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>So I should continue being strong.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cYou&#8217;re the responsible one.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">May become:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>So I cannot fall apart.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Try affirming the action instead of assigning the role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cYou handled a lot today.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Or:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cI noticed you kept everyone organized even though you were tired.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The person receives recognition without being sentenced to repeat the performance forever.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Affirmations Are Not Bribes<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">There is a manipulative version of affirmation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cYou&#8217;re such a generous person\u2026\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">pause<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201c\u2026so I knew you&#8217;d lend me the money.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Interesting.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The compliment has handcuffs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Or:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cYou&#8217;re too smart to believe that.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Translation:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Agree with me or surrender your identity as intelligent.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">That isn&#8217;t affirmation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">That&#8217;s leverage wearing perfume.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Notice Change<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">One of the most powerful things you can name is movement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cA month ago you couldn&#8217;t talk about this without shutting down. You just stayed in the conversation for twenty minutes.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Or:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cYou used to answer immediately when you were angry. I&#8217;ve noticed you&#8217;re giving yourself time now.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Growth is often gradual enough that the person living through it cannot see it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Someone outside the process may be able to point toward the distance traveled.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">That can matter enormously.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Affirm Without Stealing Ownership<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Someone succeeds.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You helped.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Be careful with:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cSee? I told you that would work.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Now their achievement has somehow become evidence of your wisdom.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Try:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cYou did it.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Let the accomplishment belong where it belongs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You may have held the ladder.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">They climbed it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Ask Before Correcting the Self-Story<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Someone says:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cI&#8217;m a coward.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Your instinct:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cNo, you&#8217;re not.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Kind.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">But perhaps ask:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cWhat makes you say that?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">They explain.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Then maybe:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cI hear that you wish you&#8217;d acted sooner. I also notice that when it mattered, you did eventually step in.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Now the affirmation doesn&#8217;t erase their disappointment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">It adds evidence their current story may have excluded.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">The Quiet Affirmation<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Sometimes affirmation is not spoken.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You trust them with responsibility.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You ask their opinion.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You remember what they taught you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You hand them the tool because you know they know how to use it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You stop hovering.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Recognition can live in behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Sometimes:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cCan you show me how you did that?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">is stronger praise than:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cYou&#8217;re really good at this.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">What You Notice Grows in the Conversation<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">If every conversation focuses exclusively on failures, people begin speaking about themselves through failure.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">What went wrong?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Why did you fail?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">What should you fix?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">What is the problem?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Necessary questions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">But incomplete.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Also ask:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>What worked?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>What did you do that helped?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>What are you proud of?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>What kept you going?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Now another part of the map appears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Not fantasy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Resources.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">The Mage Does Not Create the Power<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">This is the important part.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Affirmation is not casting strength onto another person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You are not enchanting them with confidence.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The strength existed before you named it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The patience.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Courage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Discipline.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Honesty.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Restraint.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Care.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ingenuity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You are pointing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>There.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">That thing you just did.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Look at it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">That belongs to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">The Mage&#8217;s Practice<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">For one day, replace one generic compliment with a specific observation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Instead of:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cYou&#8217;re a great friend.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Try:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cYou remembered I had that appointment and checked on me afterward.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Instead of:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cYou&#8217;re strong.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Try:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cYou were scared and still showed up.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Instead of:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cYou&#8217;re talented.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Try:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cYou kept adjusting until you found something that worked.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Do not manufacture praise.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Look carefully.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Find something true.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Then name it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">People spend enormous portions of their lives being told what is wrong with them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Sometimes useful conversation does something quieter.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">It notices the evidence already sitting there.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The person may not believe they are brave.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Disciplined.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Patient.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Changing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Capable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You do not have to convince them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Just point toward the footprints.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Name what is already strong.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>School of Conversation \u2014 Element of Rapport Someone tells you about a difficult thing they did. They were afraid. They did it anyway. And we say: \u201cGood job.\u201d Perfectly kind. Also occasionally about as informative as giving someone a gold star for surviving a shipwreck. There is another way. Tell them what you saw. 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