{"id":703,"date":"2026-08-17T19:44:20","date_gmt":"2026-08-17T19:44:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/depthguide.com\/?p=703"},"modified":"2026-08-18T22:11:46","modified_gmt":"2026-08-18T22:11:46","slug":"give-the-words-back-warmer","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/depthguide.com\/?p=703","title":{"rendered":"Give the Words Back Warmer"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">School of Conversation \u2014 Element of Rapport<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Someone tells you:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cI don&#8217;t know. I&#8217;m just tired of trying.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">There are many possible responses.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Advice.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Encouragement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Questions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Solutions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">A story about the time you were tired of trying.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Or you can do something deceptively simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You can give them back what you heard.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cIt sounds like you&#8217;ve been carrying this for a long time.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">And sometimes\u2014<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">that is the sentence that opens the door.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Reflection<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Reflective listening means taking what another person has said and offering your understanding back to them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Not repeating their exact words.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Not pretending to be a therapist.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Not mechanically saying:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cWhat I hear you saying is\u2026\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">after every sentence until everyone wants to climb out a window.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You are checking the signal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>This is what reached me. Did I receive you correctly?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">The Parrot<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Someone says:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cI&#8217;m angry because they changed the schedule without telling me.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You respond:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cYou&#8217;re angry because they changed the schedule without telling you.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Technically:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Reflection.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Spiritually:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Parrot.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Sometimes simple repetition works.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Usually you can do more.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cYou planned around the schedule they gave you, and now you&#8217;re the one paying for their change.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ah.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">That reaches beneath the sentence.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Maybe they say:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cExactly.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">That word matters.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">It means you found something.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Listen for Meaning<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">People rarely communicate only facts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">They communicate what those facts <strong>mean.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cI didn&#8217;t get invited.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Fact.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Possible meanings:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">They forgot me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">I&#8217;m not part of the group anymore.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Someone intentionally excluded me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">I thought these people were my friends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">I&#8217;m embarrassed that I cared.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">A good reflection listens for the layer underneath.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cYou thought you belonged there, and now you&#8217;re wondering whether they see you the same way.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Perhaps.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Let them correct you if not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Reflection Is a Guess<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">This is important.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You are not announcing the hidden truth of another person&#8217;s soul.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You are making an informed guess.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">That means your tone should leave room.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cIt sounds like\u2026\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cI&#8217;m wondering if\u2026\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cSo part of this might be\u2026\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cIt seems like\u2026\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">These phrases leave the door unlocked.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The other person can say:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cNo, actually.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Excellent.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Your reflection still worked.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The map improved.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">The Wrong Reflection Can Be Useful<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Someone says:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cI don&#8217;t care whether I get the promotion.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You notice something in their voice.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You try:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cPart of you sounds disappointed.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cNo. I&#8217;m relieved.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">There.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Useful information.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You were wrong.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">And now you understand them better.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Conversational skill is not never missing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">It is making misses easy to correct.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Reflect the Feeling<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Sometimes the important information is emotional.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cThat scared you.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cYou&#8217;re proud of her.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cThat sounds exhausting.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cYou seem torn.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cYou&#8217;re relieved it&#8217;s finally over.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Small sentences.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Large effect.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">People often continue after them because they no longer have to spend energy proving the feeling exists.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Reflect the Value<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Go deeper.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Someone says:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cI know the new job pays more, but I don&#8217;t want to miss my kids growing up.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You could reflect:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cFamily time matters more to you than maximizing income.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Now you have identified a value.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Or:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cYou want to be someone who&#8217;s actually present for them.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Deeper still.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The person may pause.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cYes.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">That pause often means you touched the root.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Reflect the Conflict<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">People frequently contain two truths at once.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cI want to leave, but I keep thinking maybe things will get better.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Try:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cPart of you is ready to go, and another part isn&#8217;t ready to give up.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Now neither side has been erased.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">This is particularly powerful because humans often feel pressured to choose a position before they have finished understanding their own ambivalence.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Reflection lets both voices speak.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Reflect Strength Without Flattery<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Someone describes surviving something difficult.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You might say:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cYou kept showing up even when you weren&#8217;t sure it was working.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">That&#8217;s different from:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cYou&#8217;re amazing.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Maybe they are.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">But specific reflections often land better than generic praise.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cYou were scared and still made the call.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">That tells them exactly what you noticed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Don&#8217;t Dig Deeper Than They Invited You<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">There is a dangerous version of reflective listening.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Someone says:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cI don&#8217;t like broccoli.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You lean forward.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cIt sounds like vegetables represent a loss of control from childhood.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Please stop.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Depth should emerge from evidence.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Not enthusiasm.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Sometimes broccoli is broccoli.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Don&#8217;t Use Reflection as a Trick<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Reflective listening is powerful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Which means it can be abused.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Salespeople can use it to manufacture closeness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Manipulators can mirror someone to lower defenses.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">A person can learn exactly what matters to someone and then use that information against them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Technique does not create ethics.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The Mage still chooses what the magic is for.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Reflection should help another person become more accurately understood\u2014<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">not merely easier to steer.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">You Don&#8217;t Always Need the Next Question<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Someone says:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cI miss him.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You reflect:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cYeah. You really miss him.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Then silence.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You do not immediately need:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cWhen did you last speak?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cHow long were you together?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cWhat happened?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Sometimes the reflection itself is enough.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Let the room breathe.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">People often continue when they are ready.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Reflection Can Slow Conflict<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">During disagreement, people frequently repeat themselves because they believe they have not been understood.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cI know, but\u2014\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cNo, you&#8217;re not hearing me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cI heard you.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cNo, you didn&#8217;t.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Try demonstrating it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cYou&#8217;re saying the problem isn&#8217;t that I went out. It&#8217;s that I told you I&#8217;d be home at ten and then didn&#8217;t contact you when that changed.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cYes.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Good.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Now respond.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You may still disagree.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">But at least they no longer have to fight for proof that their message arrived.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Give the Words Back Warmer<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">A good reflection often removes some of the thorns without changing the meaning.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">They say:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cEveryone there is completely incompetent.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You might reflect:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cYou&#8217;re frustrated because you keep having to fix problems you thought other people were handling.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Same underlying message.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Less fire.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Not dishonest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Not sanitizing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Clarifying.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You are giving the meaning back in a form that may be easier for both of you to examine.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">The Mage&#8217;s Practice<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">In your next conversation, resist the urge to immediately add something.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Instead, take one thing the person said and return the meaning you heard.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Not every sentence.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Just once.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">They say:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cI&#8217;ve been working on this for months and nobody even noticed.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Perhaps:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cYou wanted someone to see how much you put into it.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Then wait.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Maybe:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cYeah.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Maybe:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cNo. I wanted them to stop taking credit for it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Excellent.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The map sharpens.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">That is the spell.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Listen.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Receive.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Translate.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Offer it back.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Not as judgment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Not as diagnosis.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">As a lantern held between two people:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>This is what I think you mean.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">And when you can, give the words back a little clearer\u2014<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>and a little warmer.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>School of Conversation \u2014 Element of Rapport Someone tells you: \u201cI don&#8217;t know. I&#8217;m just tired of trying.\u201d There are many possible responses. Advice. Encouragement. Questions. Solutions. A story about the time you were tired of trying. Or you can do something deceptively simple. 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